Relationships, they can be easy, difficult, confusing and just sometimes downright awful. But don't let this scare you, it depends on the person and how well you connect, the common ground you both share and how open you are with one another.
Look I'm no relationship specialist, but I can only give advice from someone that's been in a fairly turbulent relationship from the get go, why I stuck around I can't be too sure if I am honest, there were signs from the beginning that it was all too good to be true, then it got deeper with having kids etc.
There were some great years, however the majority of it during the span of our relationships wasn't so great, it was for a lack of trying on my part, it was more the other half, things changed, loved changed and ultimately I had to change.
I had noticed over the course of the years my wife becoming more and more distant with me, physically, sexually and also emotionally. Of course this raised questions around whether my wife was cheating on me and one I never got a honest answer on.
The way I was made to feel was as though my need for affection was annoying, needy and as though this isn't what a proper relationship is, it's not all about affection, love and togetherness, I felt like a friend in my own marriage.
There were a lot more signs during the years but it slowly got worse and worse, I'm not all sunshine and roses myself but I can say within my hearts of hearts that I tried my best to keep the passion and the love alive, but it is something that's a two way street and unfortunately she didn't reciprocate in the same way.
But here are some things to consider if you too are feeling the same way:
Signs of a Relationship Ending
Lack of communication leads to misunderstandings and distance.
Growing emotional detachment and diminishing intimacy signify a disconnect.
Increased arguments and unresolved conflicts are red flags of deteriorating relationship.
Growing Apart
Diverging interests and goals can lead to partners feeling like they are on separate paths.
Change in priorities and values can result in partners drifting away from each other.
When to Call It an End
Continuous unhappiness and lack of effort to resolve issues indicate it may be time to move on.
Recognising that staying together is no longer mutually beneficial is a key point to consider.
Mental Health Impact
Dealing with a relationship ending can lead to feelings of grief, anxiety, and depression.
Self-esteem may take a hit as individuals may blame themselves for the breakup.
Expectations During Breakup
Emotional rollercoaster: from relief to sadness, expect a range of emotions.
Difficulty in adjusting to a new normal without the partner can be overwhelming.
Involvement of Children
Children witnessing a breakup may experience emotional distress and confusion.
Maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship is crucial for children's well-being.
Navigating the Split
Seek support from friends, family, or professionals to cope with the emotional toll.
Establish clear boundaries with your ex-partner to facilitate a smooth transition.
Handling Financial Commitments
Evaluate shared assets and agree on a fair division of property and finances.
Create a financial plan for post-breakup expenses and adjustments.
Starting the Separation Process
Initiate open and honest conversations about the decision to end the relationship.
Seek legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities when splitting up.
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